Happiness and unhappiness is the result of both voluntary and involuntary influences, e.g. it may be due to news that someone you care about is having a baby, getting married, a new job, home or many other positive things that give happy emotions, making you feel happy for and/or with them.
However, if the the opposite were the case and someone you care about was experiencing sadness due to a miscarriage, marriage break up, losing their job, their home or similar, they are likely to feel very unhappy and other negative emotional feelings of sadness, hurt, anger etc., may get transferred to you too without you realising it.
When a persons emotional feelings and responses can be transferred to you. Rather like the spreading of a virus that physically passes on contact or being in close proximity the positive and negative emotions of others can equally pass to you.
If someone you live or work with is angry, sad, down or negative all or most of the time, those feelings can be transferred to you. Causing you to embed those thoughts and feelings into your own life. In turn, you can transmit these similar negative feelings to others.
It’s important you know how to deflect someones negativity. Although there are a number of ways to do so. I recommend using the following steps of STOP!, which has worked very effectively both personally and with clients.
Stop and realise what is happening to you.
Take 3 deep breaths, smiling whilst you are doing this thinking of something positive. As you breathe out, let go of the negative feeling.
Observe what has happened
Proceed and stay aware of your feelings